Can People Change?

There are two schools of competing thoughts about people and their ability to change. I believe that most individuals fall generally into one of these two areas.

  1. Those that believe that people are generally the way they are and they really don't change.
  2. Those that believe anyone can change
I am of the mind that people can change, the key is that only they can choose if they are going to change or not. You can't make anyone change. You can guide, offer corrections, point out mistakes and how to do things better, but ultimately if there is a change to be made the individual needs to decide for themselves if they are actually going to change who they are.

I think this is an important point and why most people get hung up in the two schools of thought. Because people have to make a choice and take actions, be purposeful about changing who they are, most people don't change. But everyone has the power to change. 

If you think about yourself how does it feel if you were never able to change anything about yourself. You are basically who you are for the rest of your life? It feels limiting and we immediately rebel against that thinking, "Not me, I can change!" Remember that next time you find yourself thinking a person you know will never change, they have the power to change just like you do. It is all a matter of the choices we make.

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